YOUR WORTH; You define it


Episode 1, A Woman's Plights Series.

                                                Dedicated to every woman who fights to keep the dignity.

Dear woman,

You are the biggest meat in the largest pot of soup. Should I ask you pardon my words? I don’t think so. You have tolerated more insults and have been humiliated much more. No! not by men, but by thyself. You have an ‘ideal’ image, one generally presented by the world through the media and peers. I hurt to see young girls growing into this ‘deceptive’ perception of what and who really a woman should be. Fleshy? Soft? Quiet? Dull? Passive? The world has changed, please do too.

A beautiful woman, everyone loves her and wants to be like her. She is very acknowledged by the magazines and video screens. I hate it to the core, seeing that the external appearance of beauty has sunk your self esteem because you are not as slim, light-complexioned, nose-pointed, hairy, tall, busty and curved as the lady in your magazine.
Dear woman, the world has a perception and expectation of who you should be but never let this conflict with who you want to be or what you are capable of being. It’s appalling to see you begging for acceptance in many indirect ways such as immorality and indecent dressings. Any man that cannot accept you first for your inner beauty will never be able to appreciate your outer beauty. Reveal so much beauty with so little skin, that’s the essence of clothing. If it will cause you to sell a piece of your body to public eyes to attract a gentleman you ‘claim’ to love, then he is not worth it. You know why?
'How you attract a man determines how you keep him', feel free to quote me there. If being half dressed (which is synonymous to half naked) is the way you attract him then be ready to walk half-naked all your life. The most eternal attributes are more internal than external. Make sure you are a beautiful soul because what attracts a man defines who he is. A monkey will never be attracted to sugar and neither can you try to attract an ant with rice. Monkeys will be drawn closer by bananas, so will a purposeful man be drawn to a purposeful woman. You see, the tendency is that the man who likes you for going half dressed is of that standard, hence anything under-dressed is qualified to win his love. Consider the same scenario with a man of good status, purpose and vision. Ultimately he would only be attracted to a woman of status, purpose of vision. This is because 'two cannot work together except they agree' and 'birds of the same feather flock together'.
If you are not getting the attention of the kind of men you want, check it! You are doing something that is attracting the wrong attention.

Dear woman, you have injured yourself with your own weapons. Tools you could have used to defend your values, you pointed at your forehead and pulled the trigger. You have reduced yourself to become an employee when you were made for a manager, an entrepreneur, a consultant. You are beautiful, it is not about what ‘he’ says or ‘she’ says, it is about what ‘you’ say. Look in the mirror and you’ll see a strong woman, the kind only a man who is wise enough deserves.
Don’t worry if they leave because you said no to premarital intimacy or you have decided to keep your dignity, the best man in the world knows how to not only find but also keep a woman of your status. The best husband in the world is not just the one that prays and fast. He is the one who knows the ‘worth of a woman’. But you make his efforts futile if you do not know your worth because no matter how much he tries to make you feel like a queen, you still choose to treat yourself like a slave. Washing a pig only for it to return to the mud? It's frustrating😞. So it is also loving a woman who doesn’t even know her worth, talk less of love herself. It is infuriating!😩
Inferiority is not humility, dear lady. You can be successful yet humble and be sluggish yet proud. A deeper sense of identity breeds humility because you realize that your place is always in support of ‘his’ and never in ‘opposition’. In football, you don't dribble you teammate to prove a point. You actually pass the ball anytime because when he is in control, you are indirectly in control too. 
We may disagree but the aim is to agree eventually. So guys, add it to your requirement😆. Lookout for a woman who knows her purpose and essence for it is easier for them to display intellectual humility. 
Dear lady, queens are covered, protected and hidden. Please hide your beauty and expose your wisdom. I celebrate you!

Written by Elizabeth Ewudiwa.

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Author, Elizabeth Ewudiwa
Blogger/Entrepreneur/HR Enthusiast/Poet/Public Speaker
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